Trying Something New…
Written by Ashley Kelmore, Posted in Childfree, Feminism
I have my first post up on Medium. Thought I would share it there instead of reprinting it here.
No matter where you go, there you are.
Wednesday
March 2017
COMMENTS
Written by Ashley Kelmore, Posted in Childfree, Feminism
I have my first post up on Medium. Thought I would share it there instead of reprinting it here.
Monday
March 2017
COMMENTS
Written by Ashley Kelmore, Posted in Reviews
Three Stars
Best for: Fans of Lauren Graham, fans of Gilmore Girls. If you’re just a fan of her work on Parenthood, there’s only one chapter in here for you.
In a nutshell: A loosely chronological collection of essays by Lauren Graham, discussing how she got into acting, her time on Gilmore Girls, and her time filming the recent series of films for Netflix.
Line that sticks with me: “What was it I’d encountered that day, and those other times? Why would anyone assume I’d need help with, or take credit for, something that wasn’t my work? Was it … sexism?”
Why I chose it: I really enjoy the characters of Lorelai Gilmore and Sarah Braverman, and I’m a sucker for a memoir written by a woman.
Review: I read this book in an afternoon plus one 30-minute session on the elliptical. It’s well-written, amusing, and offers some very sweet insight into Ms. Graham’s experiences as an actress. She even (for the first time) sits and watches all seasons of Gilmore Girls to give us readers her insights.
This book was fine. It’s definitely not bad, so I’m not sure why I’m leaning towards three stars instead of four. Maybe I was hoping for more? I’m not sure why – Ms. Graham seems extremely guarded (which is totally her right), and this book fits with that. I don’t think I learned anything surprising about her from her, although I made a few inferences of my own from what was included – or not.
The stories she tells are fun (thought rarely laugh-out-loud funny, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing) and kind and generous to her colleagues. I did thoroughly enjoy the Gilmore Girls-specific chapters, but did wish there was more about her time on Parenthood.
As an aside, there was one section, however, that might just change my life as far as my writing is concerned. In one chapter, she shares advice she received from a fellow writer, called “the kitchen timer.” It’s obvious as hell once one reads it, but I’m using it right now and honestly, it’s really helpful.
Sunday
March 2017
COMMENTS
Written by Ashley Kelmore, Posted in Reviews
Four Stars
Best for: People interested in learning more about the real cost of solitary confinement.
In a nutshell: A collection of essays about solitary confinement, with the vast majority being authored by those who have actually experienced it.
Line that sticks with me: “I could see grass through the window at the end of the hall. When they found out I could see it, they put a plate over it. We are way worse than other countries.”
Why I chose it: This was a recommendation from my husband.
Review: Each essay written by one of those who has been placed in “SHU” (Secure Housing Units, a.k.a. solitary confinement) is heartbreaking and infuriating in its own way. Solitary confinement has always sounded horrible; these stories confirm it. From the absurd reasons guards – and judges – find to lock people away for 23 hours a day in a tiny cell, to the long-term detriment this causes after just fifteen days, it is all bad.
All of it.
And it’s mortifying that in the U.S., we put more people in these tortuous cells than anywhere else on earth. People are denied human contact. They must jump through absurd hoops just to get access to the occasional book. And some have been in solitary for thirty years.
Can you imagine?
I don’t buy into the idea that people who have committed crimes deserve to be tortured. Yet it seems that so much of the U.S. prison system is focused on revenge fantasies instead of finding ways to rehabilitate people.
The only reason this book isn’t getting five stars is because I didn’t find the final section to be as compelling. It’s a few essays about the psychological and legal concerns about solitary confinement. It felt a bit unnecessary, but I do understand why it was included. It just took away from my experience.
Sunday
March 2017
COMMENTS
Written by Ashley Kelmore, Posted in Feminism, Politics, What I'm Reading
Fight Back
Horrific Executive Action and Legislation
Arts
Misogyny at Work
Racism
Reproductive Rights
Anti-Sex-Worker
Homelessness
Sunday
February 2017
COMMENTS
Written by Ashley Kelmore, Posted in What I'm Reading
Today is the five year anniversary of Trayvon Martin’s murder. Please consider reading the book his parents have written: Rest in Power.
Fight Back
Horrific Executive and Legislative Actions
Reproductive Rights
Ableism
Representation
Anti-Semitism
Xenophobia
Making Me Smile
Sunday
February 2017
COMMENTS
Written by Ashley Kelmore, Posted in Feminism, Politics, What I'm Reading
Fight Back
Horrific Executive and Legislative Actions
Homelessness
Criminal Justice
Ableism
Trans Rights
Minimum Wage
Sex Work
Awesomeness
Monday
February 2017
COMMENTS
Written by Ashley Kelmore, Posted in Reviews
Four Stars
Best for: Humans of earth. Seriously, this woman was a national treasure.
In a nutshell: Celebrity shares memories of her youth, her mental illness, and her substance abuse.
Line that sticks with me: “But no matter what the dictionary says, in my opinion, a problem derails your life and an inconvenience is not being able to get a nice seat on the un-derailed train. Given that, I’ve had three and half problems. A dead guy in my bed, substance abuse, and manic-depression.”
Why I chose it: I’m working my way through Ms. Fisher’s catalogue this year.
Review: Ah. So good.
I think at this point most of us are familiar with how witty and honest Ms. Fisher is. In this, the first of her three non-fiction works, she tells entertaining stories that also manage to be insightful and blunt without feeling preachy. Yes, she uses sarcasm, which isn’t for everyone, but I enjoy it when it’s deployed with this level of skill.
I recently watched the HBO documentary about Ms. Fisher and her mother Debbie Reynolds, so some of these stories were familiar. But it didn’t matter, because the stories were still great. Ms. Fisher has an ability to share what are objectively challenging moments with a self-awareness I aspire to.
I will definitely be re-reading this when I need both a laugh and a reminder that
Monday
February 2017
COMMENTS
Written by Ashley Kelmore, Posted in Reviews
Four Stars
Best for: Anyone who likes a well-told story.
In a nutshell: Young girl growing up in Iran in the 70s and 80s.
Line that sticks with me: “In any case, as long as there is oil in the middle east we will never have peace.”
Why I chose it: A friend and I were discussing books and I shared how much I enjoyed the March graphic novels. She lent me this one, and I’m very glad she did.
Review: I’d heard of this book before, and it met the expectations I’d built up. I’ve now read a couple of books set in this time in Iran, and I have to say I am still a bit confused (and annoyed that my education didn’t cover this, either – seriously, what did I learn in school?!). Side note, the New Yorker has a list of six essential books about Iran, so these are going on my TBR pile.
Ms. Satrapi is a great storyteller, evoking strong emotions while telling this story of growing up in Iran as the government changed hands multiple times. I appreciated the honesty of a child forming such strong beliefs and then having to reconcile them as the government changes. She also shares her experience of such traumas as having loved ones arrested and neighbors killed in bombing in a way that feels both childlike and mature.
This is the fourth graphic novel I’ve read this year, and I think that I finally get that, just like literally every other genre, there are good ones and bad ones. I think the first couple I read just weren’t good fits with my interests, but I almost let that keep me from looking at other ones. Thankfully, with the March series, and now with Persepolis, I can say that I’ve moved past my unnecessary mental block that has kept me from this world in the past.
Sunday
February 2017
COMMENTS
Written by Ashley Kelmore, Posted in What I'm Reading
Fight Back
Horrific Executive Orders and Legislation
Reproductive Rights
Geography
Sunday
February 2017
COMMENTS
Written by Ashley Kelmore, Posted in What I'm Reading
Fight Back
Horrifying Legislation and Executive Action
Righting Past Wrongs