Three Stars

Best for:
Those who don’t mind a vaguely unreliable narrator. Those who enjoy a bit of ‘he had it coming’ in their crime novels.

In a nutshell:
Hazel and Fox were sort of vigilante serial killers who now have a child. Fox has decided that they need to stop so they don’t risk their child’s way of life by getting caught, but Hazel is not satisfied with this and soon makes what might be a very costly mistake.

Worth quoting:
“I can’t tell what’s life and what’s just a chemical imbalance in my brain. I know I’m meant to be happy but things are a bit shit. So is that depression, or is that just feeing bummed out about my lot in life?”

Why I chose it:
Monthly book club choice.

Review:
It took me awhile to get into, but I decided to take it on holiday with me and figured the two flights would be a captive situation. And they were!

This is a slightly interesting take on what happens when women have to give it all up for a child. In this case, the giving up is not an office job, but instead years of killing men who ‘deserve it.’ We get point of view chapters from both Hazel and Fox, though it feels more like Hazel’s book.

Hazel attempts to make friends with a mother at a parent/child music class, but Hazel isn’t exactly a people person, and she’s pretty unlikable. I mean, other than that fact that she’s a murderer. Just, as a person, she thinks she’s quite above others, and can’t be bothered with connecting with or really caring about people unless she thinks they’ve been wronged by a man.

Then there’s Fox, who is doing his best to take care of his family and keep Hazel happy.

There are quite a few twists and turns, and one fairly large storyline that ends up being a bit of a red herring, but overall it was a fun read once I got into it.

Three Stars

Best for:
People who are childfree by choice, people who have kids but are interested in knowing a bit more about what their childfree friends’ lives are like.

In a nutshell:
Olive is a successful writer in her early 30s (I think) who is going through some major life changes alongside her three friends, all of whom are in various stages of trying to or having children.

Worth quoting:
N/A

Why I chose it:
I’m in a childfree community and saw people talking about this book, so figured I’d check it out.

Review:
SPOILERS because some of the things that bothered me about this book relate to items revealed near the very end.

In some ways this book reminds me of ‘So Thrilled For You’ in that there are four women and they are all in various different stages of life – Bea has three kids, Cecily is about to give birth to her first child, and Isla is going through IVF unsuccessfully. And Olive has just broken up with her boyfriend of nine years because he definitely wants ‘a family’ (ugh, I hate that family somehow only means kids) and she really doesn’t think she wants children.

Look, there are so few positive representations of childfree women in media that I think folks can sometimes be overly generous with the depictions we DO get. And I certainly don’t want to dissuade artists from putting out more content that represents us, but also its so frustrating when the limited media is just not very good.

First off, Olive is successful in her career. Like, kinda weirdly so. Most people aren’t working at that level, and I suppose everyone assumes childfree people focus on their careers but like, we can be mediocre in the workplace too! She’s also really bad at using her words. It’s frustrating, since she’s a successful writer in the book, but she repeatedly refuses to take the opportunity to tell her friends what she needs to say. And it is framed as something always coming up, and Olive making herself smaller for them, but also her friends aren’t mind readers! Like can you imagine not telling your friends your relationship of nine years ended, and sort of blaming it on them being busy with their kids? I mean its possible but it doesn’t ring true to me.

I also hated that Olive walked on so many eggshells with her friends and would ‘admit’ to them being right about things when no, they were just being insensitive. I get the sense the author was trying not to alienate readers with children or who want children, but it felt a bit like trying to ‘both sides’ situations where that just wasn’t necessary. Also, and this is just me maybe, but does everyone get drunk all the time in real life? Like that just has never been my reality. I now have a sober partner, so I drink maybe twice a year, but well before that I wasn’t opening a bottle of wine every night, or getting trashed on a Saturday just for funsies. That’s so unappealing and it seems odd to be such a focus of one’s life. It feels immature, and seemed like a bit of a subtle way to suggest that Olive is immature and that’s why she doesn’t want kids.

I also absolutely loathes the character Iris who led the Childfree By Choice group Olive visits. She was written as a caricature about what a childfree life is all about. Travel! Excitement! Hobbies! And like, sure, but also it’s just a life, and it feels like a weird pressure to put on people without kids that they have to live these extraordinary lives. Again – parents get to be mediocre in all sorts of aspects of their lives. Childfree people should be allowed that grace as well.

The most spoiler-y bit is probably a bit of stretch for some people, but it bugged the shit out of me, and I’m annoyed with the author about it. So we find out near the end that one of the reasons Isla has been so cold towards Olive (despite Olive being the friend who I’d argue is the most supportive of Isla during her fertility struggles) is because ONE TIME, WHILE DRUNK, Olive said she’d be a surrogate for Isla, and Isla was so upset when Olive shared that she was most likely not interested in having children and included in that discussions of her finding giving birth to be not for her. Literally one google search by the author – or even the character Isla – would tell you that someone can’t be a surrogate if they haven’t already had a successful pregnancy. So Olive COULD NOT ever even be a surrogate for Isla, at least not any time in the next probably three or four years, and it would all depend on Olive having a kid first. Like, nothing about that storyline made sense, and it really bugged me.

What I did like about the book was Olive’s genuine quest to learn more about the judgment and the pain childfree people experience. But even though it was ostensibly a focus of the book, I feel like it wasn’t explored nearly enough.

I guess I thought this book was going to be different than it was, which is why the rating is a three instead of a two – that extra star is because I need to manage my own expectations. I just expected and wanted more from this, since it’s like the only book I can find that ostensible was looking at the childfree perspective.

(Side note: maybe remove that Elizabeth Gilbert pull quote from the cover given her latest memoir …)

Four Stars

Best for:
Fans of honest memoirs; those interested in learning more about the lives of child stars.

In a nutshell:
Dancer, actor, singer, songwriter, podcaster Stoner shares the first 25 years or so of their story.

Worth quoting:
“All I have to do is be perfect at everything and look perfect while doing it.”

Why I chose it:
It just sounded interesting, and memoirs are kinda my jam.

Review:
The book itself has myriad content notes, including rape, eating disorders, religious bigotry, and others. Stoner shares them up front, so you can check out the first pages to see if maybe you want to skip this one.

I am a bit too old to be fully familiar with Stoner’s catalog of achievements. Like many people, I know them from their turn as the young dancer in Missy Elliott’s ‘Work It’ music video. But they apparently were a Disney channel star, voicing many roles, and co-staring in films like Camp Rock, Cheaper by the Dozen, and the Step Up films.

Stoner is non-binary and queer, using they/them pronouns, but the book, while addressing their sexuality, doesn’t really talk at all about their gender identity. I saw that this was referenced in an article about the book, and Stoner said there was just so much to fit into this memoir that adding in their gender journey was just too much to include. So perhaps that’ll be coming soon. And if they do write that book, I’ll read it.

Stoner’s life as a child start began at age 6 and never really stopped. Their mother took the family from Ohio to California, where Stoner was separated from their father, and instead lived with their step-father, who eventually was physically and emotionally abusive. They also had to navigate, all as a child, the brutal world of the entertainment industry. They were aware at a very early age of how many people relied on them for their livelihoods, which is such a burden to put on a child.

They discuss the challenges of never quite being a ‘star’ but still being a steadily working artist, and the pressures of having to be ‘on’ all the time, referring often to their inner publicist. They talk about their Christian faith, and their experience of losing friends in that faith when they came out as queer. For someone who felt the need to mask their true identity for their entire childhood, Stoner clearly has learned about their true self, and is so honest and eloquent in telling their story.

At one point we learn that their mother and business team has essentially taken all of their money, with their mother paying herself a salary she no longer needs. They maturity Stoner shows throughout these trials is impressive for someone twice their age. The title is clever but also very true – Stoner comes across as someone who has done a lot of work to figure out who they are, what they want, and what their values are, and they are trying to live that life. Including advocating for much better conditions for current child actors, musicians, and social media stars, which is amazing.

Three Stars

Best for:
Anyone interested in becoming a football (soccer – but I’ll be calling it football for the rest of the review) referee; anyone who enjoys watching football but isn’t actually clear on what the rules are; anyone who thinks its super easy to be a referee.

In a nutshell:
The official laws of the game of football, along with descriptions of rule changes, and practical advice for referees.

Worth quoting:
“The best positions is one from which the referee can make the correct decision.”

Why I chose it:
I am a new football referee (eight matches in as of today), and I wanted the tactile book of laws to consult, highlight, and go back to.

Review:
Watching Ted Lasso, the character Keeley makes mention at some point that she doesn’t really pay attention to what’s going on during the match, but knows to shout ‘referee’ in exasperation / anger when something doesn’t go her team’s way. I think anyone who watches football on TV or in person (including myself) has exclaimed at a perceived bad call.

I played football off and on for over 30 years, with my final season in goal ending in June of this year. Prior to that, I took and passed the referee course, because I knew I wanted to stay involved in football but couldn’t keep throwing my body on the ground week after week (I was a goal keeper). And let me tell you – being a referee is fucking HARD.

This book outlines the 17 laws (rules) of the most popular sport in the world. From the size of the pitch, to the ball, to the players, to offside and everything in between, these 100 pages describe what should be the same no matter where and when someone plays a game. In reality, as we all know, each referee uses their own experience and judgment to determine calls. Just today, for example, I refereed 14 year old girls. There was definitely some pushing, but fouling? Eh. At one point I awarded a penalty to a team. The defenders lost it. At the end, the keeper told me I needed to go back to school to learn about penalties. And don’t get me started on trying to call offside without having assistant referees (shockingly, I do not have eyes in the back of my head).

While observers will think its super obvious what is a foul and what is not, or what is offside and what is not, the laws as discussed in this book are both crystal clear and dependent on the circumstances of the match. Is that a foul just because the person jostling for the ball is stronger than their opponent and so is using more force? Is someone actually being careless, or reckless (and thus needs to be cautioned, a.k.a. shown a yellow card)? And when a player loses it and cusses on the pitch, when should they be cautioned for dissent and when should I let it go because they are just expressing some frustration?

The laws cover the standard items, but also a lot of weird situations that possibly could come up. Like, there is an explanation for what to do if someone someone taking a corner kick manages to touch the ball a second time before anyone else … with their hand … in the opposite end of the pitch. Has this ever happened? It must have.

I appreciate that the book also includes explanations for changes to laws from the previous year, as well as tips on positioning and common sense, plus a glossary. Obviously I’m not going to whip it out during a match, but I’ll be reviewing it every week before matches.

Four Stars

Best for:
People who don’t mind reading about horrible people, and who like a bit of schadenfreude.

In a nutshell:
Anthony – a very rich finance dude – dies at his 60th birthday gala. Was he murdered? Did he take his own life? Is something else going on?

Worth quoting:
“He’d always thought I was an idiot. It’s a mistake men often make, thinking their wives are stupid when they’re actually just full of rage.”

“Who are these people who walk through the world with such little interest in what’s really going on?”

Why I chose it:
I enjoyed her previous book “How to Kill Your Family.”

Review:
MINOR SPOILERS AHEAD

Really no one in this book is super-likeable. Even the character we are probably meant to relate to most – ‘the sleuth’ trying to solve the possible murder of Anthony – is somewhat annoying and kinda unremarkable. But I still enjoyed it once I realized I wasn’t actually rooting for anyone. To use a sports analogy: you know when both the teams playing each other are teams you don’t like and you’re like ugh, why can’t they both lose? Well, that’s sort of how this book goes – everyone loses!

The minor spoiler here is that while Anthony dies at the start of the book, we still get his perspective because he goes to purgatory to try to remember how he died. In this version of reality, people who die go to a holding center where they need to recall their death before they move on to whatever comes next. And while there, they can actually watch their family members. Wild, eh? So while we only get point of view chapters from three characters, we still can see what others are doing if they are family members.

Anthony’s wife Olivia is another vile character. Anthony and Olivia actually quite deserve each other – they’re both genuinely horrible people who delight in the misery of those who don’t have their wealth or status, playing games with peoples lives. Gross, right? They feel like caricatures but for some reason, for me at least, it totally works. Anthony and Olivia also have four kids, ranging in age from 17-28, and there are various partners and other side characters we follow along as well to try to sort out why Anthony died.

I know the world is an absolute dumpster fire right now, and sometimes to offset that I look for a book that really explores how complex the world is, and how people can be so good. But sometimes I also just want to lean into it and hate on the super wealthy. This book scratches that itch,

Four Stars

Best for:
People who want an easy read that isn’t a quick read.

In a nutshell:
CN: Suicidal ideation

Phoebe and her husband divorced just after the pandemic. She has come to a hotel to die by suicide, When she arrives, it turns out she’s the only person there who isn’t part of a wedding.

Worth quoting:
“What is one thing I can do right now instead?”

“Everybody in my life is always telling me I can be anyone I want, but then whenever I do one thing they don’t like, they act like I’ve ruined myself,”

Why I chose it:
I was intrigued by the description.

Review:
I cannot relate to Phoebe. I am not divorced, I haven’t had suicidal ideation, I didn’t have the same upbringing, I don’t want children, and I’ve never struggled with infertility. And yet, I felt a great connection to Phoebe, and I think that speaks to the character author Espach created.

The set-up: Phoebe is a professor who decides, after her cat dies, to take his pain meds, fly to a fancy hotel she once wanted to stay at, and die by suicide. When she arrives – with only her phone and the clothes on her back – she finds she’s the only person at the hotel not involved in the wedding of Lila and Gary.

When Lila asks why she’s there, Phoebe is honest, and Lila (who is spending literally a million dollars on her wedding week) is obviously disturbed. At first, Lila seems like a bit of a spoiled brat, but, like some of the other characters we meet throughout the week, there’s more going on.

Phoebe decides to stay alive, and over the course of the week finds what I think many of us know – it can be a lot easier to be open and honest with strangers. And sometimes, its strangers who can help us figure out things we haven’t realized about ourselves.

There’s a few things going on in this book – it’s not just about Phoebe’s self-realizations. It’s also about the assumptions we make of others, the facades we put up to please people, and the things we choose to ignore.

I’m going to be thinking about this book for awhile.

3.5 Stars

Best for:
Fans of cozy mysteries with an eccentric cast of characters.

In a nutshell:
Daphne has moved from south London to a tiny village in Norfolk with her husband and three young children, in the hopes of having a slower, simpler life. Then, the headmaster of the local school dies unexpectedly. Was he murdered? And if he was – who did it?

Worth quoting:
“The thought of sullying these beautiful and tranquil surrounding with the same stresses and drama of London was quite frankly a wholly depressing idea.”

Why I chose it:
Book club subscription – had the choice of two based solely on description, and this one sounded interesting.

Review:
The book starts with an explanation of the cast of characters, which for some reason put me off, but in the end I think was a fine addition. The book is told from the perspective of Daphne, the mother of three young children who moved with her husband from south London to this quaint village. She feels like she is a bit of an outsider, both because so many people in the town grew up there, an also because she’s one of the very few Black people in town. She is committed to becoming part of the community, becoming active in the childrens’ school and starting her own vintage furniture shop. She is welcomed by most, including her kindly but chatty next nor neighbor, Dr. Oates.

When the headmaster of the school is found dead at his allotment, Daphne finds herself a somewhat reluctant investigator. In the first place, she had seen the headmaster in a somewhat heated discussion with local outcast Minerva while helping Minerva out with her son’s birthday party. She’d also overheard the headmaster fighting with (well, being yelled at by) Marianne, a woman who wanted and was refused a letter of recommendation for her son. And she sees the headmaster bickering with his wife Augusta. Others in town become possible suspects as well, including two sisters who run the local convenience store and trade in gossip as well.

There are a lot of characters that are somewhat developed, and some side story lines that are interesting. I see that this is the start of a series of books, so I think that works better than if this were just a standalone novel. There is a lot of history and back story that is only revealed in the final third of the book, so making any guesses as to what is going on is a bit futile. But that also makes sense, because Daphne is an outsider and wouldn’t have access to all the information that the rest of the villagers have. The writing itself is vivid – I could picture these women, and their homes, and the town. And the – for lack of a better word – vibe of the place is obvious. I have been to this town.

I appreciate that the book, while being ostensibly a sort of light summer mystery, also looks at some deeper issues. Daphne discusses her concerns about moving her biracial children up to a town where almost no one looks like them (and away from a place with much more diversity). And the book itself also explores and plays with the concept that life is simpler in villages and small towns. And while on some level that’s true, in that the complexities of navigating, say, a city with 8 million people are absent, the people themselves are still people with their own complexities and drama. Just because there’s only one grocery store in town doesn’t mean that everyone’s lives are filled with sunshine and roses all the time. The idyllic concept of the simpler life doesn’t necessarily hold true, and it’s nice when books address that.

There was need for a bit better editing, but overall I enjoyed this book. It took me a little bit to get into, but I’m glad I did because in the end I red the last 200 pages in basically one sitting. And as I said, it is part of a series, and I’ve already got plans to get the second one.

Four Stars

Best for:
Those interested in how to respond to some of the accusations that come when one is fully supportive of a free Palestine and opposed to the occupation and genocide.

In a nutshell:
Sim Kern (they/them) is a Jewish author interested in debunking some of the common talking points people use to justify what Israel is doing in Palestine.

Worth quoting:
“When the oppressed call for ‘liberation,’ colonizers hear ‘genocide,’ because that’s all they know — they can only conceive of violent, oppressive relations between enslaver and enslaved. But decolonization is not genocide.”

“If Palestine can get free, then anyone, anywhere can get free, And a certain class of people are willing to bun down the world rather than let that happen.”

Why I chose it:
Even though so many of us have seen the horrors of the past two years and have spoken out, there are some arguments that often come up that can be challenging to respond to, especially when emotions are running high. I was interested in a book that could address some of these issues, backed up by research and an understanding of the history of Palestine and Israel.

Review:
As I type this review, I’ve just received the following BBC breaking news alert: “UK and 25 nations condemn Gaza aid killings as Israel launches new ground offensive.”

I’m kind of shocked they bothered to say anything, as so many western countries have done fuck all to help Palestinians in Gaza over the many decades that they have been displaced, or even in the last two years, depending on how one chooses to view things.

This book is a very easy read (in as much as a book about the history and genocide in a region can be ‘easy’), Author Sim Kern is an organizer with Jewish Voice for Peace who has done loads of reading on the topic of Palestine. I recognize that many Zionist Jewish individuals disregard anything said by the Jewish individuals in JVP as being unrepresentative of Jewish people as a whole, with some going so far as to say JVP support terrorism. The latter is frankly a ridiculous claim, but everyone is allowed their own opinion (though not their own facts).

Kern addresses right up front the fact that we should be centering Palestinian voices in these discussions, and provides many suggested readings. Interestingly, the book is published by a Palestinian-owned imprint run by a Palestinian woman, who reached out to Kern to suggest they write this book as a natural follow-on to the work Kern has been doing for the past few years to educate folks on Palestine on social media.

The book is broken into three parts – an introduction (‘How I Became a Reluctant Influencer for a Free Palestine”), a wrap-up (“Towards Collective Liberation – What Does ‘Free Palestine’ Even Mean?), and the heart of the book, called Answering Hasbara. The topics Kern takes on include ones that I think many folks who have opposed the occupation and ongoing genocide in Palestine but who are not scholars of the area have struggled with.

The chapter I was most interested in addresses the idea that criticizing Israel is antisemitic. It is obvious to me that there are quite a few people who are indeed antisemitic who have taken advantage of this moment to express those antisemitic views. However, I strongly disagree with the idea that opposition to the Israeli government and the Israeli occupation of Palestine is inherently antisemitic.

It also does a great job of framing the occupation, displacement, and genocide of Palestinian people in a much larger historical picture, exploring how it is connected to bigger questions about colonizing, capitalism, and oppression. I found the final section to be especially inspiring, because it looks beyond where we are into what actually could be possible. I often find myself thinking ‘This? This is what society has decided is what we should be doing with our lives?’ when I look at military action, and governmental actions that harm the most vulnerable among us. It doesn’t have to be that way.

As I am not an expert in this area, I am sure that there is information in the book that is simplified, or perhaps missing details others would have included. Kern includes a link to a site where they said they will be posting any errata or changing information that is no longer accurate, which I appreciate. And this won’t be the last book I read on the topic, though I do think it is a decent starting point.

I think it’s important to read more, and especially more Palestinian voices. Kern in fact ends with three letters from families who have given birth since the latest violence. They are heartbreaking. And they are such a good reminder that yes we can have endless debates, discussions, and book clubs, but in the end, there are real people being burned alive, starved, and forcibly displaced, and all with US and UK taxpayer money. It’s horrifying to see in real time,, and we as humanity owe it to Palestinians – and victims of the other genocides taking place right now across the world – to listen to their voices and actually do something to help them.

Four Stars

Best for:
Those who like a pretty horrific psychological tale.

CONTENT NOTE: There are cats that start out alive but are not alive at the end of the book.

In a nutshell:
Iðunn is exhausted but doesn’t know why, and doctors aren’t helping. But we eventually know what is going on … sort of.

Worth quoting:
N/A

Why I chose it:
I somehow ended up following author Knútsdóttir on BlueSky. No idea when that came about. But I’d been wanting to read this since she announced it, and saw it available on Libro.FM as an audio book.

Review:
That was a wild ride. This horror novella is fascinating, but fair warning up front: the ending is ambiguous at best. There is a subredding thread discussing it with little agreement. So just be warned.

Iðunn is our narrator. She’s exhausted even though she’s sleeping through the night, and tired of medical professionals dismissing her. At one point she has a giant bruise, and so seeks out a second opinion, but still gets nowhere. A colleague at work suggests Iðunn isn’t getting enough exercise and thus not energized, and suggests a pedometer, she Iðunn purchases a fitbit-style watch. She takes it off at night, but one night forgets to and wakes up to find it has something like 40,000 steps on it.

While she’s been asleep.

The novella unfolds as Iðunn tries to figure out what she is doing in her sleep. She’s mostly off work, but we do get a glimpse of office dynamics as she tries to avoid her former romantic interest, who she left but still works at the company. We also learn of her parents, who don’t seem to really know her (the mother keeps buying meat for when Iðunn comes over for dinner, despite her being a vegetarian).

We do eventually learn what she is doing in those lost hours. And it’s not great.

As I said, the ending is a bit up in the air, but I enjoyed the writing and thinking about how people might handle facing the knowledge that they are living an entire life they aren’t aware of. We’d all seek help, right? Immediately? Or would we be afraid of what would happen to us if people knew?

I’m a bit annoyed at the ending, but I’m still glad I read this book, as I think Knútsdóttir is trying to leave open a few different interpretations that all could be equally interesting. I hope to read more from her in the future.