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Big Little Truths by Liane Moriarty

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Rating:
4 stars

In a nutshell:
Ten years after the events of the first book, the kids are teenagers, their mothers are perimenopausal, and once again something has happened that has shaken up the town.

Best for:
Fans of Moriarty. Fans of the TV series (and who can forget the second season).

Quote that made me think:
“How was it that the woman always ended up in this position? Trying to meet the competing needs of every member of the family, undertaking the most complex and sensitive of diplomatic negotiations, and then, when they failed, which they inevitably did, the woman had to take the blame?”

Why I chose it:
I will basically always read a new Moriarty book. And I think this is her first sequel, and it mostly works.

Review:
First off – this is a sequel to the book Big Little Lies, NOT to the TV show. Moriarty is up front about this in the book’s forward, and talks about how Renata gets a bit more time in this book than the first given how excellent Laura Dern’s performance was in the TV series. But that is also one slight issue – I picture the actors now as the characters I guess that isn’t really a problem, but I did recognize that as soon as I started reading the book.

This time the flashbacks or flash forwards involve the 15 and 16 year old children who were five and six in the original book. They are speaking to a counselor, and we aren’t sure what about, other than that it is referred to as ‘D-Day.’ From there, we get point of view chapters from Madeleine, Celeste, and Jane. We also see Bonnie, and Renata, but they don’t have their own chapters. The focus is on the challenges of being the parents of teenagers, and the challenges of being teenagers as well.

Now that I’ve finished the book, I think I like it even more because while the plot eventually resolves in what I think is an unexpected way, the focus of the book is on women at a stage of life that can be immensely challenging. I am not part of the sandwich generation (because I don’t have kids), but I do know the feeling of concern for one’s partner, ones parents, and still trying to keep everything going. These women have (mostly) dealt with the events of the first book, but life throws other things at them, and they’re trying to sort that out.

As I said, I think the ‘incident’ that the book swirls around was surprising but not utterly absurd. I also appreciate the resolution of Jane’s storyline in this one, which I won’t spoil, but which I found satisfying. Also ,it took me awhile to get into this time, so if you can, I’d recommend setting aside some time and just digging in. I read the final two thirds of the book in basically one sitting and I think that took the book from a 3 or 3.5 to 4 stars for me,

Would I recommend it to its target audience:
Yes

Saturday

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September 2026

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Don’t Be Evil by Claire Stapleton

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Rating:
3 Stars

In a nutshell:
Author Stapleton shares the story of how Google forced her out in retaliation for trying to improve the workplace.

Best for:
Anyone who still thinks corporations might actually care about their employees. Anyone embarking on their journey of improving the workplace.

Quote that made me think:
N/A

Why I chose it:
My partner works in tech and is heavily involved in workplace organizing. Oh, the stories he could tell…

Review:
Before writing this, I checked out some of the reviews, and it’s interesting how many people jumped at the chance to minimize what Stapleton experienced. It’s fascinating how quickly people defend poor corporations from these ‘entitled’ people. A strong ‘suck it up’ ethos runs through many of the negative reviews, which is so disappointing and unimaginative. These folks just can’t bring themselves a different world, where it wasn’t okay to treat people like shit. Now, there is definitely a validity to those who are skeptical because Stapleton’s activism only appeared when she was the one being mistreated. But also … that’s kind of how life works for many privileged people? Like, it would be absolutely fantastic if we all sprung forth from the womb fully aware of injustice and recognizing that even if our lives are good, others need support. That we immediately recognized when we were being used by higher ups to fortify the status quo. And obviously some people just get it from the get go, usually due to having grown up in oppression. But obviously not everyone does (or at least not in the same ways), and if those of us interested in change try to push these folks out of the movement, nothing will get done.

Onto MY take on it …

This is not ‘Careless People’ for Google. And I think that’s a good thing. It’s not focused on the super high up people (though they are discussed), but instead focuses on the insidiousness of the culture of the corporate world – in this case, tech – and how using ‘positive’ jargon and ‘hip’ lingo convinced a lot of people that THIS corporate was somehow different. When in reality, it, like every other corporate office out there, just doesn’t care about the workers unless the workers do exactly what they want in service of making the most money regardless of the cost to society. The culture is pervasive, and it impacts the day to day work.

To be clear: Google is not, and I’d argue never was, this fantastic Utopian company. They certainly were better in the start – and Stapleton talks about what it was like in the beginning of her dozen years there – but they’ve always been interested in making the most money. It’s pretty obvious these days, when one can’t really use Google as a search engine anymore without facing a bullshit AI summary followed buy more AI slop.

Part of this book is memoir, and we learn about Stapleton’s youth, including losing her brother to an accident when they were both just starting out in the world. This obviously colors her life and focus, and her brother is mentioned often when she is facing a moral dilemma. But most of it is specifically about her twelve years at Google, and how she was moved around to teams, dealt with misogyny and bro culture, and after she organized a walk-out related to Google treated those accused of sexual harassment, she was retaliated against. The desperation of her higher ups in trying to frame it as anything other than that is so familiar. Just look at what is going on with Rockstar Games in Scotland right now – they fired over 30 people for union organizing, and then lied and said it was for breaking NDAs. (https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cqxvzwnerq0o). Companies will do anything and everything to keep workers in line, and then lie about it, and clearly Google is no different.

The book itself isn’t the most well-written, and the author clearly speaks of some of the past through the lenses of where she is now in life. But there are some good bits in here, and I think the book is worth reading.

Would I recommend it to its target audience:
Yes

Sunday

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September 2026

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The Correspondent by Virginia Evans

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Rating:
3.5

In a nutshell:
Sybil is a retired, divorced law clerk who writes letters (and occasionally emails) to pretty much anyone and everyone. We get a look at the letters she sends (and receives) over the course of a decade.

Best for:
Those who enjoy small stories that take place over longer periods of time.

Quote that made me think:
N/A (which is kind of surprising)

Why I chose it:
Book club.

Review:
This is an interesting way to tell someone’s story. It is mostly in Sybil’s own words, but so much is not included. It spans a decade, and we probably get no more than 20 letters each year. Letters will reference phone calls and such, which makes sense as no one communicates solely via correspondence, but its interesting what the author chooses to include and chooses to leave out.

There are a few different ‘plots’ – Sybil’s relationship with her adult children, her own adoption, the loss of a child, navigating a progressive illness (among other things). And they weave in as one would expect – not everything a person deals with is the forefront of every conversation or thought. But I think what I enjoyed most is seeing real character development across a decade when some folks might argue people have sort of solidified into who they are going to be. Sybil is in her post-retirement life, and at times herself wonders what she’s doing. But she is able to grow and change. She doesn’t become someone entirely different, but she allows herself the chance to learn and grow in her relationships.

This book took a bit of time for me to get into, and while on the one hand one could just pause at any time since each letter is usually two pages, and at most four. But one thing I disliked was the lack of chapters. I felt I needed to really set aside time to read it, which perhaps the author intended, but that meant for the first week or so I just avoided reading it if I only had 20 minutes or so.

Would I recommend it to its target audience:
Sure