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November 2017



What I’m Reading – November 12, 2017

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Abuse and Harassment

“But as a society, we don’t want to take responsibility for the abuse we create, enable, and strengthen. Because most of that responsibility lies with men and so many of them are very invested in keeping things the way they are — especially because they haven’t quite reached their life’s goal to be successful enough to be able to violate the consent of the most beautiful of the trophies we also know as women without consequence. Yes, everyone contributes to the patriarchy in some way — even women—but about half of us have had no say in the rules of the game, have never had a chance at winning, and have been given just as little say in whether or not we will play.” When You Can’t Throw All Men Into The Ocean And Start Over, What CAN You Do? (by Ijeoma Oluo for The Establishment)

“Here’s a theory: Some people have chosen to ignore Kelly’s alleged behavior because the victims of it have been black girls. As Jim DeRogatis, the Chicago-based reporter behind the BuzzFeed piece who has tirelessly covered the singer’s off-stage behavior for almost two decades, told the Voice in 2013, “The saddest fact I’ve learned is nobody matters less to our society than young black women.”” The latest R Kelly allegations are more evidence that black women’s words are never enough (by Jamilah Lemieux for Mic)

“The explicit goal of the investigations, laid out in one contract with Black Cube, signed in July, was to stop the publication of the abuse allegations against Weinstein that eventually emerged in the New York Times and The New Yorker. Over the course of a year, Weinstein had the agencies “target,” or collect information on, dozens of individuals, and compile psychological profiles that sometimes focussed on their personal or sexual histories. Weinstein monitored the progress of the investigations personally. He also enlisted former employees from his film enterprises to join in the effort, collecting names and placing calls that, according to some sources who received them, felt intimidating.” Harvey Weinstein’s Army of Spies (by Ronan Farrow for The New Yorker)

“Solo was speaking to Portuguese magazine Expresso about sexual harassment in women’s sports and its prevalence. She then revealed that Sepp Blatter, then the president of world soccer’s governing body, groped her in 2013 as they were about to present the women’s player of the year award at the Ballon d’Or gala. “I had Sepp Blatter grab my ass,” she said.” Hope Solo Said The Head Of FIFA Groped Her At An Awards Show (by Claudia Koerner for BuzzFeed)

“Two of Corfman’s childhood friends say she told them at the time that she was seeing an older man, and one says Corfman identified the man as Moore. Wells says her daughter told her about the encounter more than a decade later, as Moore was becoming more prominent as a local judge. Aside from Corfman, three other women interviewed by The Washington Post in recent weeks say Moore pursued them when they were between the ages of 16 and 18 and he was in his early 30s, episodes they say they found flattering at the time, but troubling as they got older. None of the three women say that Moore forced them into any sort of relationship or sexual contact.” Woman says Roy Moore initiated sexual encounter when she was 14, he was 32 (by Stephanie McCrummen, Beth Reinhard and Alice Crites for The Washington Post)

“Thurman is seething, like we have all been seething, in our various states of breaking open or, as Thurman chooses, waiting. We are seething at how long we have been ignored, seething for the ones who were long ago punished for telling the truth, seething for being told all of our lives that we have no right to seethe. Thurman’s rage is palpable yet contained, conveying not just the tempestuous depths of #MeToo but a profound understanding of the ways that female anger is received and weaponized against women.” Brave Enough to Be Angry (by Lindy West for the New York Times)


“Giles Coren writes a column for Esquire about fatherhood. His most recent piece is titled: “I Don’t Care What My Son Becomes… As Long As He Isn’t Overweight.” I thought I couldn’t be shocked by fatphobia anymore but I was wrong.” Giles Coren: Garbage Human, Fatphobe and, Horrifyingly, Father (by Ragen Chastain for Dances with Fat)

Possible Genocide

“Countries must fully fund the UN appeal and close the funding gap that is leaving traumatized children without basic food, water, and shelter. Finally, member states of the United Nations must assess what diplomatic efforts can enable them to fulfill their responsibility to protect the Rohingya. We must not be bystanders to this genocide. We cannot allow people to be slaughtered and burnt out of their homes, while the world watches.” The Rohingya are facing genocide. We cannot be bystanders (by Salman Rushdie, Kiran Desai, Madhur Jaffrey, Aziz Ansari, Mindy Kaling, Riz Ahmed, Freida Pinto for The Guardian)

Life Choices

“Needless to say, some women in the United States and other countries have always refused both roles. Nonetheless, the idea that a woman is incomplete if she does not have at least one child has long been part of the social contract, with many a shaking head greeting those who make clear that they have other plans for their lives. “You’ll regret it later,” they hear. “Who will care for you when you grow old?”” Here’s a Fact: Some Women Do Regret Becoming Mothers (by Eleanor J. Bader for Rewire)


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