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Favorite Things – NYC Edition

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Since I’m about to leave NYC, I thought I’d take a minute to get down in print some of my best times in the City. I suppose I could have gotten all introspective and such, but this is more fun.

So, here are my favorites from the past seven years:

Education
Post-class ritual: Beer and a Baked Potato at Swift with Perry and Allegra
Test-taking moment: Finance midterm moments after a huge fight with a guy
Offensive speaker: The sexist graduation speaker who seemed to only think women are involved in public service
Saying by a classmate: “Sucks to be poor.” Close second: “The only way people will pay attention to recycling is if a big pile of recycleables falls on and crushes an old woman to death.”

Living Arrangements
Apartment: Park Slope studio 
Bitchy roommate moment: Lauren not letting Jamie and Dan stay in our shared studio while I was in class even though it was pouring outside.
Mentally unstable roommate moment: Terence accusing me of stealing his liquor and withholding $50 from my security deposit for a broken salad plate
Sane, normal, fun rommate: Michelle

Cultural
Theater-going experience: Seeing Hair in Central Park with Eric
Unintentionally hilarious theater-going experience: Pirate Queen
Museum exhibition: Buckminster Fuller at the Whitney
Concert (large scale): U2 at Madison Square Garden
Concert (small scale): 10-piece band – including saw – at the Museum of Modern Art
Political moment: Cheering with Jonathan, Herman and Kathleen when Obama was declared the winer

Outdoors
Coney Island moment: Crossing the finish line on the boardwalk after completing the Brooklyn half-marathon
Traditional beach moment: Summer Friday with Kathleen
Not-so-tradtional beach moment: Stuck at Jones Beach with John and Allegra for four hours trying to get home after the Blue Angels air show
Central Park moment: My first week of school, laying in Sheep’s meadow, studying and realizing I’d made it to NYC for real

Work
Surreal day: Leading families into the ‘pit’ at the WTC site on the first anniversary of September 11
Unintentional humor: Instinctively crouching a bit when having my picture taken with the Mayor to make the height disparity less obvious (which lead to his comment that I’d go far in politics)
Job: The one I just left
Hardest, but ultimately right, decision: Not taking the job offered to me in Seattle last year
Moment that choked me up a little: Seeing how much effort Jonathan and Paula put into my good-bye party

Holidays
Beach vacation: Puerto Rico with Allegra
Regular escape: Seattle
Annual visit: Stephanie coming to NYC every single year I lived here
Wedding in a place I’d never been: Kate and Richard in St. Louis
Tradition: Orphans Thanksgiving with Herman, Kathleen, Megan, Aaron and whomever else is in town

You’ve been good to me, New York. Thanks.

Friday

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August 2009

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Right to die

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By Arthur Brice
CNN

(CNN) — An Australian high court ruled Friday that a quadriplegic man has the right to refuse food and water and can be allowed to die, a rare legal finding that some see as a major victory for right-to-die campaigners.

Euthanasia campaigner Philip Nitschke said Rossiter's case is significant because his mind is fully functional.

Euthanasia campaigner Philip Nitschke said Rossiter’s case is significant because his mind is fully functional.

The ruling means that the nursing facility in which Christian Rossiter has lived since November 2008 cannot be held criminally liable for allowing the patient to die, the Supreme Court of Western Australia said.

“I’m happy that I won my right to die,” Rossiter, 49, said afterward. But he added that he will further consult with a doctor because he may change his mind.

A leading Australian right-to-die advocate called the ruling a significant victory.

“I don’t know that many people will want to die this way. But for people who do, it’s a very important decision,” said Dr. Philip Nitschke, founder and director of Exit International, a leading global voluntary euthanasia and end-of-life advocacy group.

Nitschke noted that Rossiter’s case is significant because his mind is fully functional.

“This is the first time that it’s come up with a person that’s rational and lucid,” Nitschke told CNN. “This is unusual. It’s very rare.”

Chief Justice Wayne Martin noted that distinction in his order, saying, “Mr. Rossiter is not a child, nor is he terminally ill, nor dying. He is not in a vegetative state, nor does he lack the capacity to communicate his wishes. There is therefore no question of other persons making decisions on his behalf.

“Rather, this is a case in which a person with full mental capacity and the ability to communicate his wishes has indicated that he wishes to direct those who have assumed responsibility for his care to discontinue the provision of treatment which maintains his existence.”

Some family and right-to-life groups opposed Rossiter’s request.

“Really, what we should be doing is looking after each other rather than facilitating an escape,” John Barich of the Australian Family Association said in a TV interview.

Peter O’Meara, president of Western Australia’s Right to Life Association, said, “The law which is being applied can be a dangerous precedent.”

Rossiter has suffered a series of injuries since 1988 that have left him with limited foot movement and the ability to wriggle only one finger. He is fed through a stomach tube. He relies on staff at the Brightwater Care Group nursing facility in the city of Perth for such routine care as regular turning, cleaning, assistance with bowel movements, physical and occupational therapy and speech pathology.

Australian law gives patients the right to refuse life-saving treatment, but helping someone commit suicide is a crime that can carry a life prison sentence. The Brightwater nursing facility sought the ruling to make sure it would not be held liable if it complied with Rossiter’s request to stop all nutrition and hydration, except to be given enough liquid to make it possible to take pain medication.

Rossiter attended the hearing in a wheelchair, breathing through a tracheotomy tube in his throat. He told the judge he wants to die.

It’s a point he has been making publicly.

“I can’t move,” Rossiter said in a televised interview this week. “I can’t even wipe the tears from my eyes. And I’d like to die. I’m imprisoned in my own body. I have no fear of death. Just pain.”

Rossiter pointed out in a recent interview with the PerthNow news outlet that he once led an active life.

“This is living hell,” he is quoted as saying. “I used to be a cyclist, I used to be a keen walker. I bushwalked around the world. … I’ve rock climbed in Yosemite Valley in California up very steep cliffs. I’ve got a degree in economics and now I can’t even read a newspaper, I can’t turn the pages.”

Rossiter joined the Exit International right-to-death organization about three months ago, said Nitschke, who talked with him before the hearing.

Nitschke said Rossiter appeared “very happy” afterward.

A Brightwater executive said the company appreciates that the court’s ruling has relieved the nursing facility of any liability.

“The whole organization has been most concerned for Mr. Rossiter but also concerned for our own legal standing and this has clarified things greatly,” said Penny Flett, the company’s chief executive.

While hailing the victory, Nitschke decried the fact that Rossiter will have to undergo a slow and painful death through starvation, rather than having a quicker and painless way to end his life. Because he cannot use his hands, Rossiter must rely on others to withhold treatment rather than being able to take his own life. Switzerland has an assisted suicide law, and Rossiter has considered going there.

“It’s a bit sad that the best that Australia can come up with,” Nitschke said, “is that we can let a person like that starve to death.”

Interesting story out of Australia.

Monday

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August 2009

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GOOP

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This was almost a Facebook update, but that seemed the wrong venue.
 
Have you heard of goop.com? It is Gwyneth Paltrow’s website/newsletter. She shares her helpful tips to help the rest of us mortalsl Huzzah!
 
Please check out her sitel
 
And then grab the September Vanity Fair, turn to page 260 and enjoy.

Wednesday

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August 2009

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Last Day at Work

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Today was my last day at the job I’ve had for the past four years. My best friends in New York work there. I get to – got to – see and hang out with my best friends every single day. That’s a pretty sweet deal.

Around 3:30 I turned in all of my gear (no more blackberry! No more shield!), completed the exit paperwork and sent out my last e-mail.

Paula and Jonathan threw me a send-off that was beyond thoughtful. It was at a local bar, and we had our own room – and own bartender. Paula put together a playlist full of U2 and the Beatles, and ensured that the bar had drinks I like. She and Jonathan pulled together two huge (2 1/2 foot square I think)  posters – one covered with pictures of me with my friends, and one covered with “Things that are British” (Monty Python, the Beatles, etc.) and “Things that are not” (Bono, Northern Ireland, etc.). My coworkers signed them with really kind notes. Also strewn about the table was a bouquet of lovely wildflowers, two boxes of jaffa cakes (yum!) a few union jacks, and a bottle of Lucozade to help with the recovery tomorrow.

Paula, Jonathan, my boss and the big boss all said really sweet things. It was so overwhelming – virtually everyone I’ve enjoyed working with there (and some former coworkers) turned out. They got me a gift card to Harrods (!), and my boss gave me a great travel bag with a guide to London and a solar charger for my phone. It was so lovely, and the sap in me usually would be bawling. But I did manage to hold it together.

Until.

Two bag pipers from the FD Pipe and Drum corps came in playing. It was crazy. I’m not sure what the first song was, but when they started playing Auld Lang Syne I about keeled over. It was funny and sweet and thoughtful and just . . . insane.

I can’t believe that tomorrow I won’t go to work with these wonderful people. I’ll be leaving NYC in two weeks. It’s a lot to take in, and I’m so very excited to move to London. But wow. I’m going to miss these folks a ton. Some people leave jobs and say good-bye without planning to keep in touch – I leave without a doubt in my mind that I will count these people among my very best friends no matter where I end up. 

Monday

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August 2009

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Pound Sterling

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I was greeting today by a headline that I’m sure is making the British people smile. The pound is at a 10 month high against the dollar. The British economy is recovering. Woo!

The problem I’m having is that I’m getting a loan in dollars to pay for my education. Which means that no matter how little value the dollar has against the pound, I’m getting the same number of dollars from the bank. Thus, while what I was approved for three months ago may have been just enough at that point to cover tuition, housing and some food / books (according to the school’s cost of attendance worksheet I had to complete), now it’s worth about 13% less, plus 4.5% in fees. That’s kind of a ton of money when you think about it. And who knows what will happen in the next six weeks before my tuition and first housing payment are due.

I’m trying very hard to just hope that it will work out.

In the meantime – can you still sell plasma?

Kidding. Kind of.

Monday

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July 2009

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July 2009

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Health Care

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President Obama, Secretary Sebilius and others are working hard right now to try to solve the nation’s health care problem. I hope they do it soon.

However, I don’t think what they are proposing (as well as I understand it) is the right solution. The main reason is the reliance on employer-provided health care.

Can we stop with that? Having one’s health tied to one’s job seems like, and has been in my experience, a really horrible idea. It keeps people in jobs they don’t like (that others might do better, which could improve the nation’s productivity) and prevents people from leaving for jobs they might do better. It causes stress and crazy debt for people. 

And think about a really bad day. You lose your job. So that sucks. And then, you find out that not only do you not have a job, but if you want to keep health insurance on the chance that you don’t get a job within 63 days, it’ll cost you up to $400 / month. And that’s just for you – if you have a family, it could $1,000 or more. A month. While you are unemployed.

I don’t know if a government-run system makes the most sense. But private competition with no requirement to cover people seems to be doing squat right now. It punishes people for taking care of themselves. For example, one must list all medical issues within the last ten years. So if one is responsible and visits the doctor while the cough is still a cough, instead of waiting for it to turn into pneumonia, it gets listed. And if one gets diagnosed with a non-life-threatening condition that could develop into something worse, one gets denied outright. Nevermind that one could have just forgone doctors appointments for a couple of years and the condition would have gone undiagnosed, thus allowing the person to get health insurance. It’s this system of perverse incentives (don’t go to a doctor and hope you’ll get better on your own) that seems to be contributing to people who, once they do get sick, are really, really sick, and end up costing us all a lot of money.

I have some ideas. One is removing the job-health insurance connection. Another is preventing companies from denying patients coverage. They have loads of data one how likely people are to get certain diseases based on their past history. So let’s say Sue has had condition X for a year (one that requires little to no medical care), and 5% of people like her with condition X develop condition Y, the treatment of which is quite costly. Can’t they instead just charge her 5% extra for her coverage? Or 5% x % increase in cost? There are obviously some not-so-well researched conditions, but I’m guessing there’s a lot of data on obesity and heart disease, or asthma and other respiratory ailments. 

The Economist had an interesting article probably five years ago about requiring all to have health insurance. I love that idea. If all were required to do it, we’d have to fix the system. Hopefully remove it from any sort of tie to employement. Use the tax breaks given to employers to provide tax breaks and subsidies to consumers.

There was also an excellent article in the NY Times Magazine on the topic of restricting health care (posted below).

This is admittedly not the most well-thought-out musing I’ve ever posted, but I couldn’t not comment on it. I’m about to leave my job, and while I’ll have coverage when in London, I won’t have coverage at home, so I’m going through all of the options. COBRA is ridiculously expensive, and the various private options are hit-and-miss. I could go without, but I’d give my mother a year of stress that she doesn’t need, and myself a hefty hospital bill should something happen to me when I’m outside the UK.

Sunday

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July 2009

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One month to go

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I fly to Caifornia in a month. So much left to do. Like get a ticket to London.

 I have chosen to spend my time not packing, or sorting, or selling.

No, I’m going to movies.

 There are some blockbusters I have no desire to see (Transformers, I’m looking at you), and some I’m excited for (Funny People may have Adam Sandler, but I’m still looking forward to it). Yesterday I fit in two biggies – Public Enemies and Harry Potter. Johnny Depp and Marion Cotilliard are brilliant. Christian Bale was ok. But I enjoyed it. And Harry Potter was as expected – entertaining and fun

 Today I’m really excited to see 500 Days of Summer. Zooey Deschanel can do no wrong in my eyes. And Joseph Gordan-Levitt has that something working for him.

Saturday

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Thursday

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A visit from my sister

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Stephanie and her boyfriend Jimmy are in town right now. They arrived Tuesday evening and are staying with me. I’m having a great time; the only bummer is that they leave Friday morning. 

Wednesday we had a crazy full day. We walked along the High Line, which just opened last month. It’s a repurposed elevated train bed now being used as a public park. It’s amazingly well landscaped – it feels like a desert with some great plants. There are huge wooden lounge chairs, benches, and cool architecture. It’s only about seven blocks of park, but more will open later.

After the High Line we visited Chelsea Market. So much yummy food. And four different bakeries, two of which have cupcakes. Heaven.

A quick train ride up to Columbus Circle took us to Central Park. We wandered up to Bethesda Fountain, and I remembered that I’ve been wanting to go out in a rowboat on the lake forever but never done it. Since it was early afternoon on a week day, there was no wait. It’s only $12 for the first hour for a boat of up to four people, and only three dollars each additional hour. It was so, so, so much fun. It’s a really different perspective of one of my favorite places in NYC.

After an hour on the water (getting a little crispy) we walked over to Serendipity III, and again benefitted from the date and timing of our visit with just under a 10 minute wait. Nachos and a famous frrrrrrozen hot chocolate refueled us for a quick stop in Dylan’s Candy Bar followed by a two-mile walk down Fifth Avenue to the Empire State building. Did you now you can go to the 102nd floor now? It’s $35 instead of $20, so we passed. But if any other friends visit and want to go, I may do it.

We ended the day with drinks at Vol de Nuit in the Village.

I’m exhausted. But it was so much fun.