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November 2007




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I am thrilled to be helping out with a friend’s engagement/bridal shower/party thing. It’s very low-key, and very small. Invites went out about a month ago, and last weekend I purchased all of the little favors / gifts for the guests.

At that time, one of the invited guests asked if another person would be attending. I immediately confirmed that no, they would not.  There was some concern since they recently had a bit of a falling out. The same invited guest was unsure whether she would be able to attend, so I wrote back to her again yesterday.  Her response?

“Hi Ashley,

I had e-mailed you asking if <not invited guest> was invited. If not, can you invite her? I would like her to come as well.


(invited guest)

Who does that? This is not an Evite gathering at a bar – it’s a very small sit-down meal. In what universe is it okay to ask that another person be invited to someone else’s bridal shower? And not five days out? Now, if the guest of honor had realized she left someone out, that’s one thing. But this isn’t the case. I was so put-off by this. It’s just so ill-mannered.

Of course, now the guest of honor feels compelled to say “sure” and have me invite her, since otherwise it becomes a big deal. I’ll of course do what she wants, because it’s her party, but what type of friend would put their friend in such an awkward situation? It’s just so rude!

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